Question: I am 18 years of age and lost my mother when I was 7. Since then, I have stayed at my father's sister's house. She has cared for me a lot but still, I have always felt the lack of my mother in my life. My father did not remarry and is old and alone. I feel for him. Now that I am 18, I want to start a new life and be independent. Be it BPOs to begin with. I want to get married early and have a family as I feel very lonely and my father will also have a new family. Am I thinking in the right direction?
KARTIK

Roshni: Hi Kartik,
I wish there were more guys like you. You sound incredibly mature and sensitive for your age. Yes, you're thinking in the right direction but in the hurry to establish a family, don't overlook your own professional ambitions. Think of a good education and establish long term goals. Fuel your ambition with your desire to provide a good life and family to your father. Also please remember to pick the right woman to marry. For the right companion can fill your life with happiness and support your goals.

Question: Hi Roshni. I am 30 years of age and I want to settle down and get married to this girl, I am seeing from the past 7 years. She is 29 years old. But whenever I have asked her for getting married she has refused and said that she sees that happening some years later. We both are adults and earning well. There is no reason why we should delay our marriage. I have sat with her and asked her very lovingly as to why she wants to delay the marriage, but she gives no reason. I do not understand her behavior sometimes and I am afraid I will lose faith in her. What do I do?
ANOOP

Roshni: Dear Anoop,
Ask yourself how much you actually know this girl. After seven years of being together, there is no way she should be able to get away without even giving you a reason. Either she has a mind block against marriage due to some deep insecurity or she is not as serious about this relationship as you are. Let her know that this is an issue and you will not back off till it's solved one way or another. And be strong enough to face the truth whatever the outcome may be. You deserve some straight answers. Don't decide them for yourself and lose faith without giving her a chance.

Question: Hey!! I am a 28 years divorced female. I met this fabulous guy a year back and since past 6 months we are in a live-in relationship. We want to get married but what worries me is his habit of smoking-up. He smokes a joint or two every day. I have spoken to him about my worries but he says it’s good. Should I marry him? What should I do?
YAKSHI

Roshni: Dear Yakshi,
Was he smoking up when you moved in? And if he was good enough, then why are you trying to change him now? I'm not justifying his addiction just asking you to evaluate if it's so necessary for you to insist on him changing. I say, if he loves you and is good to you and you guys believe in each other, together you will face and overcome many evils.